KNOWING YOURSELF & WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY

If you don’t know who you are, how do you know what makes you happy?

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself this simple question: Who am I?
I come across so many people who have no idea who they are, no idea what they are good at and lack a sense of purpose, direction and belonging. As human beings, we need to belong and we need to have a purpose in life. We need to feel significant or we start to self-sabotage. We end up feeling bored with life and lonely. We can be surrounded by great friends and family yet still feel a sense of loneliness and lack of excitement for life. Our heads start to fill up with negative thoughts, self-doubt and a feeling of worthlessness. That critical inner voice becomes louder and harsher. Without knowing who we are, we don’t know what we are good at and we don’t know where we are supposed to be going or what we are supposed to be doing. We feel useless and lack drive.

Do you ever wake up in the morning bored with the same routine, confused with yourself and with the world around you; lacking motivation and fed up in your own skin? Do you ever feel as though there should be more to life? There is more to life for sure but how can you have excitement in life if you have no idea who you are and you have no purpose and direction? How can you move forward and achieve great things or be successful if you don’t know where you are heading or what your passion is? If you don’t know what you’re good at, how will you know what skills you still need? You cannot set a goal or a target based on a void. You have to know where you want to go in order to head in that direction. You also need to know where you are right now in order to know where you are going or need to go to. How can you know what makes you happy if you don’t know who you are and what you are all about? To be happy you have to be at peace with yourself. You have to know yourself inside out; your thoughts, your emotions, your passions, your likes, your dislikes and what makes you tick.

The only time you will ever feel lonely in life is if you feel lost and the only time you feel lost is if you don’t know who you are, where you are or where you’re going. Loneliness is not caused by anybody else or anything else in the outside world. We often blame it on our parents, partners or on being alone when in fact, it is simply a lack of knowing ourselves and a lack of our own emotional fulfilment due to a lack of significance. Can you see how they work together? Everything is interlinked so the biggest and most important thig is to find out who you are.

Quite often, people think that what they do is who they are and yet…if what you do is who you are than why are you unhappy? Here’s an example: ”I am an accountant. I am a stress head!” Is this who this person truly is or is this a stressed state of mind due to what this person does and lacking passion? What would happen if this person was made redundant? Would they still know who they are or would they feel an identity loss? They would absolutely feel lost and confused about who they are. What about this? “I am a driven, bubbly and motivated person. I like who I am but my job as an accountant makes me feel stressed.” If we take the job away, we are still left with a driven, bubbly and motivated person. It’s a powerful position to be in. In my view, a job does not make a person unless it goes hand in hand with their passion and purpose in life; “I am a strong, bubbly, supportive person and my purpose in life is to help others. I am a coach.” Otherwise, it is simply a job and a form of income. Live it, breath it, smell it, taste it, love it and it’s who you are.

So who are you and what is important to you about your purpose in life? Who inspires you? What do you love? What fills you with joy and excitement? If you can find this out, use it to live your purpose and earn an income at the same time, you are living your dream.

Stay smiling ?
Flavia xxx “