RICHARD GRANNON – COUNTER DEPENDENCY & LOVE PHOBIA
In this video our Trusted Coach Richard Grannon talks about counter dependency and Love-Phobia. Richard talks about the smashing of ones boundaries that can be shattered from a parent who does not respect the boundaries of the child. This leads to co dependancy and an urge to merge with someone who is often abusive.
THE CO-DEPENDANT LEARNS THAT LOVE IS SACRIFICE TO AN ABUSIVE PARTNER WHO HAS NO RESPECT FOR THEIR BOUNDARIES.
In turn the Counter Dependency comes from a similar environment where they are not able to be themselves, often having allot forced on them such as opinions, feelings and concepts likely in an abusive way. They are not allowed to form their own being and in response the counter dependant responds with a fight stance in relationships. The counter dependant has an urge to push back and push people away, so when they are receiving real love they respond by pushing it away.
THE COUNTER DEPENDENT LEARNS THAT LOVE IS ENSLAVEMENT, PUNISHMENT AND PAIN SO THEY PUSH IT ALL AWAY.
On a side note Counter Dependency can often look like a personality disorder and the reason why NPD can often be routed in Co Dependency is because that hole persons sense of self is routed in the other. A Counter Dependency still has a sense of self without others, so put a NPD on a dessert island, all alone and they would not last long alone.
In what is an incredibly complex understanding of the human psyche, Richard Grannon talks in depth about Counter Dependency and Love-Phobia by contrasting it to Co Dependency and how a Counter Dependant cant LOOK like a Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Richard is one of the leading names in the study of personality disorders in the world today, studying under Richard Bandler who is one of the founding fathers of NLP. To connect with Richard use the AUTHOR drop down above or join Richard on his website below.