RICHARD GRANNON – WHEN SELF SABOTAGE IS SELF PROTECTION
Here is a fantastically interesting subject talked by The Spartan Life Coach Richard Grannon. Self sabotage comes in all forms and can stem from all manor of issues but one of these is the fear of “Rising Too High”. Have you ever seen a parent who is in competition with their children, they want to be their child’s best friend, hanging out with their friends and wanting others to seem them as sisters or brothers.
The parent can often make the child feel like they can’t be prettier than their parent, and if you rise to high or shine to bright then you are punished for it by your Narcissistic parent. This type of parent can suffer narcissistic injury from their child doing well, then they can punish the child for making them look stupid or feel inadequate.
So it is from a Narcissistic parent that the child can learn to self sabotage, because failure is safe from punishment by the Narcissistic and abusive parent. This in turn can also lead to the parent saying things like “I always new he/she would mess it up” so it’t kind of like the saying “Damned if you do and damned if you don’t”. The child can enter adulthood afraid to success and ready to fail, because at least he/she understands where they are in that hierarchy and relationship.
In the video below, one of our Trusted Coaches and one of the leading names in personality disorder studies Richard Grannon, talks about this subject and gives great advice on what to do and how to handle these feelings.
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