SETTING YOUR BOUNDARIES MAY SAVE YOUR LIFE – KATIE MORTON
When we were young our boundaries and understanding of what we should be subjected to where set by our parents or care givers. There comes a point in our lives when we have to decide for ourselves what we consider appropriate behaviour from others in accordance to our boundaries, needs and desires for our own lives.
I have spent many years struggling with this one thing, it has held me back and has been a major factor when falling into and staying in abusive relationships. In a world where we are too frightened to say anything for fear of offending anyone, we constantly allow people to overstep our personal boundaries. A few years back I heard David Icke give this piece of priceless advice , he said that people “TAKE OFFENCE” and that there are people walking this planet looking for an excuse to be offended. Just look at the comments section of a social media post and you will see what I mean, its almost psychotic how angry people get over someone else’s view of the world.
So we need to be prepared to set boundaries and only let those into our lives that add value and love to our wants and needs. Many people will be reading this and thinking I am including enablers in that statement, well i will say this. It is up to you to decide wether a certain action is causing you harm in accordance to where you want to be in life, if someone you know is adding to that harm then they may be enabling you. Ultimately it is up to you to decide on all of these things, this is exactly what boundaries are about. They are there to protect you and they are made by you and no one else, no single person on the planet has the right to tell you what you should endure, suffer and take on the chin.
Here is a fantastic video by Katie Morton on Boundaries.
You are the master of your destiny, you get to decide what is right or wrong for you. You also get to decide who you let into your inner circle, and I would suggest that if a certain person whether thats a ‘Friend’ or family member, does not respect your right to say NO then they need to go.
I have shrunk my friendship circle pretty much down to 4-5 people who do respect my boundaries, and no that does not mean they agree with everything I do or say, but what we do not do is force our opinions and way of life on each other because life is hard enough.
So set your boundaries and if someone has an over the top reaction when you say no, then they might have to go. Its ultimately up to you.